Actual Babe

 31 December 18:00   Material Girl

     Direct Answers - Cavalcade for the anniversary of December 16, 2002

    I afresh went on a date with this guy I met online. We had been emailing for a few weeks afore we absitively to go out together.

    We met at a restaurant, and he brought me a huge boutonniere of flowers. He was sweet, affable and civil against me and our chat was good. But I acquainted ashamed by all the absorption accustomed to me by the waitresses and bus agents apropos the flowers.

    That s not even the accomplished story. You see, at the end of the date , this guy collection me home and got this huge box out of the trunk. He said he had gotten something abroad besides the flowers. We went in the house, I opened the box, and it was a DVD player!

    I told him I couldn t acquire such an big-ticket gift, but he banned to yield it back. My ancestors keeps cogent me to accord it aback to him, and that it is about amiss to accumulate it. I told him how I acquainted about the flowers and DVD player, and he just said he gets agitated abroad sometimes.

    I don t wish to date him anymore, but because he and I accept a lot in accepted I anticipation we could be friends. He has agreed to be friends, but I still accept the DVD player! Allotment of me wants to accumulate it because I ve capital one for so long, but I could never allow it because I am unemployed.

    I wish to do the appropriate affair and accord it back, but then again, I wish so abundant to be able to accumulate it. What do you think?

    Ramona

    Ramona, humans who accord something "over the top," usually apprehend something in return. That something is usually a affair you would not accept accustomed advisedly in the beginning.

    When you make a chink in what is acceptable, you accessible yourself to all kinds of consequences, and you make a ability in yourself to act weakly. Accepting this allowance makes you attending bad. It makes it arise your standards depend on the amount getting right.

    Perhaps the greatest advantage of autograph an advice cavalcade is this. We get to see so some patterns of behavior again afresh and again. The behavior we see in your letter generally ends in one of two places. Either you become accessible to men who anticipate they can buy what they wish from you, or you end up affiliated to a man you didn t even wish to date. Forward it back.

    Tamara

    Catching Fleas

    In February 2002 my acquaintance Helen asked to borrow money or the coffer would yield her house. The money Helen adopted I was extenuative for new carpeting in my house. If I asked for it back, she said she lent the money to her acquaintance Sandi, who is accepting an activity on her husband. Helen promised to accord the accommodation already Sandi repays her.

    Helen is aswell accepting an affair, and I even covered for her with her bedmate by adage she was with me. In August I answerable the carpeting on a no-interest, no-payment acclaim card. If I don t get the money aback by February 2003, I owe the accomplished bulk additional six months of accounts charges.

    If I yield Helen to court, all of this including her cheating will appear out in the wash. What can I do to save this accord and get my money back?

    Karen

    Karen, we create our own future, but in a way so attenuate alotof of us can t amount it out. Involving yourself with artful humans in a web of ambidexterity was apprenticed to appear aback to abode you. If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.

    Perhaps a advocate could help. But if you can t get your money returned, accede it the alotof admired assignment you accept abstruse in a long, continued time.

    Wayne