How Aperitive is Your Feedback?

 31 December 18:00   

    How Aperitive is Your Feedback?   by Ed Sykes

     Recently, I was watching a echo of the acknowledged television show, The Cosby Show. The ancestor of this able ancestors (He is a doctor and his wife is a lawyer.) played by Bill Cosby, was just told by his college-bound babe that the admirer she brought home to accommodated him was absolutely her fiancé. He was aghast with the news. Aghast not in the adolescent man or what he did (he was a aliment engineer), but in the way he was told about this engagement.

    Mr. Cosby said that the way he was told was like demography a sizzling, delicious, able-bodied T-bone steak and confined it on a debris can lid. Its not too appetizing. You understand the steak is delicious, but would we absolutely wish to eat it? Its not too appetizing.

    I ask you, if you accord feedback, do you create it aperitive for the receiver of the feedback? Or do you create your steak indigestible? We can be giving abundant acknowledgment accustomed and, unless we create it aperitive so others will abstract it, our acknowledgment will not acted upon.

    The afterward are ten techniques for authoritative your acknowledgment added appetizing:

    1. Basic for a Abundant Meal

    Just as you would basic for a abundant meal, you should adapt to accord feedback. Mentally go over the following:

    * Is the acknowledgment important?

    * What do I wish to achieve with the feedback?

    * Who are the bodies I will be giving the acknowledgment to?

    * How will they yield my feedback? How can I create my acknowledgment added aperitive for them?

    * How accept they taken acknowledgment in the past?

    * Is there anyone bigger I can admit to serve the feedback?

    Just as you would apprehend to aftermath a abundant meal, mentally apprehend to accept a abundant acknowledgment session. Yield time to anticipate the absolute alternation and after-effects by giving the feedback. Understand that you will advance the lives of those you accord acknowledgment to and how you will achieve your goals.

    Note: Remember, all feedback, with the ambition of convalescent addition alone or situation, is positive. Its if we are not accepting or giving connected acknowledgment that situations about-face abrogating due to misunderstandings.

    2. Timing Is All Important for a Abundant Meal

    Make abiding you are giving the acknowledgment if it is needed. Giving acknowledgment too continued afterwards there is charge will adulterate the ache for the feedback. Giving acknowledgment too aboriginal if there is no ache for the acknowledgment will acquiesce your meal, your feedback, to go to decay and not accept the appulse on behavior that you need.

    3. Superior Capacity Are the Alpha of a Abundant Meal

    Be constant every time you accord acknowledgment so that the being accepting the acknowledgment will understand what to expect. Be fair in your feedback. Aswell focus your acknowledgment on accomplishments observed, not the person. Or, as I say, point to point, not being to person. Use I statements.

    * Be absolute in your feedback. Just like you wouldnt wish to delay always to get to the capital course, you wouldnt wish to delay always for anyone to acquaint you why they are giving you feedback.

    * Set absolute expectations so they wish to eat. Instead of adage the following:

    Mike, appear by my appointment today at 3 p.m. so that I can accord you some effective criticism. Mike is cerebration he had rather be accepting a basis canal.

    Say the following:

    Mike, appear by appointment at 3 p.m. today. I accept some account on how to create your job easier (or some additional benefit) and would amount your feedback.

    Remember, in adjustment for the receiver of the acknowledgment to be athirst for the information, administer the Whats In It For Me (WIIFM) technique. Ask yourself, What is the account to the receiver of my feedback?

    * Adept Our Utensils. Adept our utensils, the words we use, if confined the meal. For example, if you noticed anyone unfocused in their conversation, you ability say the following:

    Sue, apathetic down! You are circuitous too much.

    Instead say the following:

    Sue, you abiding accept a lot on your mind. Lets apply on top the three credibility you wish to discuss.

    Use absolute words to make a abundant meal.

    4. Ask for Acknowledgment on the Meal

    Encourage the additional being to accord you acknowledgment on your feedback. This may bright up any misunderstandings. Also, it shows that you amount the additional bodies opinion.

    5. End the Meal on a Absolute Note

    Appreciate their time, their manners, and all-embracing address to the feedback. Let them understand that you acknowledge the efforts they are making. Aswell acquaint them that you apprehend that there will be a absolute aftereffect from the acknowledgment session. Also, let them understand that you are there to advice them succeed.

    Apply these techniques at work, home or in the association to ensure that your acknowledgment is added aperitive to others.

    Bon appétit!

    

 


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